When I have a bad experience, I immediately go into solutioning mode. I assess, audit, and try to determine how to avoid similar negativity in the future. Some might call it a commitment to learning and improving, but I know myself well enough to know better. Deep down, it's really about my impulse to control my environment so that I don't get hurt, and that's not really how we learn. Sure, there are some things within my power to control and I should always be looking to imp

In working with TOTEM clients this past week, a theme emerged: are we thriving or just surviving? Many clients have expressed a desire to start really living again, feeding their hearts and souls with inspiration, art, music, friendship and generally speaking the beautiful things in life. They've discovered the space between surviving- the theme of the past year- and wanting to aim for something beyond the base layers of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs...and it's a strange and un